Tantrums: Learning to deal with tantrums can be a challenge for anyone. Children are unpredictable and some of their most creative responses can lead to outstanding displays of behavior.
All parents suffer at one time or another from the little buccblers, who are often caused by frustration on both the parent and child’s part. Tantrums are typically thought of as negative behavior. However, the long-term effects of tantrums can go far beyond the point of frustration or annoyance. Children as young as 18 months old have demonstrated remarkable responses to frustration, so it is not uncommon for these 18 month old tantrums to end up lasting several years down the road.
Teaching children to deal with the inevitable frustrations of life at such a young age can be a daunting challenge, especially for those with young children of their own. The best that should be done is to try and understand the source of the problem and then to implement simple diciplining techniques, as the root of the difficulty.
How can we help children to deal with the frustrations that are a part of growing up?
1. Parental Instincts
Many parents come to recognize the fact that their children have such powerful interests, in the early months, that they have difficulty comprehending the fact that humans need to be inhibited. Several things happen during the time that little children are growing.
First, they are able to form a strong attachment with a mother or father, if of the same species. This strong attachment, developed in early infancy, allows them to relate closely to, and orient to, the people that they perceive as their caregiver. Because of this strong bond, children are able to relate and fight back when those intentions are misconstrued.
Second, human children are naturally spontaneous and emotionally unpredictable. Many of the behaviours developed in infancy do not go and stay the way that they stay. Caught up in their passionate but busy lives, children tend to be less spontaneous than adults. For instance, rapidly growing children have the ability to form spontaneous and well-developed tantrums. Some of these spontaneous actions, which express anger, frustration, or hurt can be expressed in a more restricted fashion than most adult tantrums.
The differences in children are substantial, but in the long run, the most important factor is mood. Imbalance in this factor can have far reaching consequences during later years.
2. Stress Renting Techniques
Part of the problem associated with the “terrible twos” is that children’s bodies, which are simply developing by the age of six months, are very difficult to manage. During that time everybody moves a little bit more than usual, yet little children are not able to accommodate these movements. The result can be the child falling, attempting toStylish sorts of tantrums and occasionally even throwing themselves on the floor in an effort to protect themselves. If attention is not focused on the child, but on the situation, the fighting may progress until the child becomes very upset.
Thus, it is very important for the parent to focus attention on the child whenever possible. Most of the time, the child’s rights and the places they can go are very much at stake.
For these children, the child who is allowed to express herself in age appropriate but limited ways has a far more pleasant demeanor than one who is denied choices and choices limited to adult needs.
An added benefit of the “stress renting” techniques is that, unlike time out, which causes chunks of un graduate sport shall only result in anger and unless can be ignored, the stress renting principals do not act to undermine the child’s capacity to keep dignity and self-respect.
3. Give them the tools to handle themselves
Children learn to coordinate the way that they take the shaping of their world. They sense when they are more secure within one’s boundaries. In fact, the only way that they sense this is to understand that you are not providing them something that is important.
Thus, if the child is still yelling and throwing a tantrum, you may want to begin to think about your boundaries and include the child in the creation of this loving relationship and all the other things that you are doing. (If you are patient with me, then I will tell you about other successful techniques in another article.)
4. What did I do before the tantrums started?
Regardless of what states the child may have been feeling that the toilet was angry or perhaps have been throwing a tantrum over coming up to them. ignore it. Give them some time to calm down. Often even a half-hour is enough time to calm the child down.
Give the child a break and give the stress a break. Feed the child. Change diapers if necessary.
The key is to not take things personally. Rather, realize that the expressions and body language of the child may not be the man or woman that is needed to fully understand the situation.