4 Tips for How to Handle Losing Your Job
Losing Your Job: No one is ever prepared emotionally for the shock and disappointment that can accompany losing your job. When you depend on your salary to pay for your rent or mortgage and necessities, it can send you into a panic when you realize you no longer have incoming resources.
It’s important not to allow your mind to play tricks on you, however. The most important thing to do when you find yourself unemployed suddenly, is to focus on solutions rather than the problem.
Keep your chin up and make sure that you do the following things.
The worst case scenarios start to play out in your mind as you wonder if your home will go into foreclosure or your children will starve.
File For Unemployment
When you get confirmation that you’ve lost your job, you should file for unemployment. While you’ll still have to pay taxes on your unemployment wages, it can be a useful tool for making it through until you are able to find a new job.
This will carry you through while you are on the job search so that you can at least pay for some of your basic necessities. Depending on what kind of resources you had before, it may not cover everything, but it will help.
One of the greatest tools that you have during difficult moments is your positivity. Keeping your head up and focusing on positive outcomes rather than the worst case scenarios will not only keep you sane, but it will usually lead to more favorable results.
Try to use techniques such as meditation and the law of attraction to envision things playing out well for you. Often these methods are met with great success during times of trouble.
Cut Back Your Expenses
It’s crucial that you adjust your spending habits to suit the needs of your new financial restrictions. You may have to live quite modestly for a while, so it’s vital that you make changes where necessary.
Creating a budget of what you can spend on each area of your life is helpful. That way you have clear guidelines which will help you stay in control of your spending.
Take Action Every Day
It’s important to remember that even though you may not have a job to go to every day, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be working.
You should take action every single day to send out resumes and applications. It’s ultimately a numbers game. Therefore, the more applications that you send out, the more likely that you are to get called back for an interview.
You’ll also have more peace of mind knowing that you’re being proactive rather than remaining stagnant.
Doing so only perpetuates the harmful emotions that fuel anger, self-pity and also a feeling of powerlessness. Focus on the future, and also on what you need to do to put yourself up as well as you can on the work front, in the way you are budgeting your money, and on your relationship with those who will help you find a new job. What you focus on expands, so concentrate on what you would like, not on which you do not.
Do not let your work status define you.
Sure, losing your job is a very private experience, but don’t take it too personally. Who you are isn’t what you’re doing. Never was. Never will be. Research by psychologist Marty Seligman found that the biggest determinant between people who succeed after setbacks of any kind is the way they translate them. People who interpret losing their job as a sign of personal inadequacy or failure are less likely to get back on the horse’ in their job search than people who interpret it as an unfortunate circumstance that given a precious opportunity to increase in self-awareness, reevaluate priorities and build endurance. You define who you’re, not your job or a business’s decision whether or not to hire you. It can well be due to economic forces beyond your control that you just found yourself out of work. Prospective employers will be attracted to those who have demonstrated their ability to stay positive and confident even though a setback/job loss.
When you have lost your job it is all too easy to plant yourself to the couch, remote in 1 hand, beer or bag of chips in the other, and wallow in self-pity. Many do! But psychological and psychological resilience requires physical resilience. So be intentional about taking care of YOU and doing anything is needed to feel fit and strong. (After all, you now have no excuse which you don’t have enough time for exercise) Studies have found that exercise builds endurance, which makes you more immune to anxiety. Get outside, go for a run, do a little gardening, or simply do something which lifts your spirits – if building your kids a cubby house or taking your dog to the shore – and helps to shift the negative emotions which have the potential to keep you away from being proactive in your job search.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Emotions are contagious. The folks around you affect how you view yourself, your position and what you do to improve it. Be skeptical about who you hang out together and don’t get sucked into the vortex of those who need a marathon shame party. It wastes precious energy and time far better spent getting back into the workforce. Read positive books, watch inspiring movies, and keep in mind that your family will take their cue from you. Let them know that while you may not have selected your circumstances, you are confident that with effort and time, you’ll all pull together, and be all the wiser and stronger for it.
Harness your network.
The people who understand what you would like, the more that will help you get it. The vast majority of jobs are not advertised. Reach out to people you understand and enlist their support in creating any openings or connections which may help you. Whatever you do, never underestimate the ability of your system to open up opportunities and land you that”lucky break” you were hoping for.
Heal finding a job for a job.
If you feel the need, and can afford to do it, then give yourself a rest for a few days or week or 2. But supposing you can not manage a year sailing the world on the Queen Mary, don’t take too long before returning to your familiar routine. Create a structure daily. Create a work search strategy with goals and small manageable steps. Then prioritize, structure your daily life and treat finding a job for a job.
It is pretty simple really: extending kindness toward others makes us feel great. In addition, when we give our time to help others, it will help us prevent living on our own troubles, and which makes us realize just how much we have to be thankful for. There’s no greater mood booster than making a difference for someone else, even once you want your own life was different than it is.